Wanting For Nothing - Well Not Really True

Terri and I were driving back from Barrie last night and I made a comment to her that we live a pretty good life. That we wanted for nothing. Well not exactly nothing. We want for our daughter Ava. That's really the only want in our lives. We have our health. We live in a nice home. We both have family members close by. We are pretty spoiled in a-lot of ways. It just goes to show that material things mean nothing. If you have your health and a home to live in then you are doing pretty good. I also said to Terri that my one wish in life right now is that when we get Ava home and are spending quality time with her that those times in our lives don't fly bye. That when you are sitting on the couch with her and she wraps her little arms around you that you could freeze time and space. We both realize that we are going to have to really soak in times like that. We have friends and family members who are so lucky to have children to love and to be loved. People keep telling us that when we finally get Ava home that the wait will seem like nothing. We hope so.

Thanks

Just wanted to say thanks to all who offered their wisdom in my time of need. The wait gets to me more often than not lately and its great to know there is so much support out there. I am sending out my good thoughts and prayers that two couples from our Adopttalk seminar get their referrals soon. Alex and Julia Group 251 and Lynda and Andre Group 252 we are thinking of you guys and hope you get your referrals soon.

What should we say...?

So, we went to Boston Pizza for dinner tonight. As we waited for our appetizers a family was seated at the table across from our booth. This family was obviously a family formed by international adoption. The parents were caucasian and the children were asian(I am guessing from China but can't say for sure). I was mesmerized. Does anyone else ever feel this way? The little girl was approx 3 yrs old and the boy I would guess was around 6 or 7. I was watching the little girl skip and dance around the table and could not tear my gaze away for more than a couple of minutes. I know I shouldn't stare. I certainly don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable but I want that for us so much. I wonder if the mother could see the longing in my face. Could she tell that we had something in common or was she uncomfortable by our glances? I wonder if she remembers how she felt while she waited. We always struggle for words to say when we see an international adoptive family. We certainly don't want to say the wrong thing or make anyone uncomfortable. Is it wrong to say "Your daughter is beautiful."? Would we say the same of a biological child of a stranger? We have been taught to be so conscience of the rascism we could encounter are we oversensitive to it? It's all so confusing and frustrating sometimes.
All I know is I want that so bad. Please China hurry up so we can be the family that people are staring longingly at.